My little Rienn One month old

Mummy loves you,En En.
More photo at RIENN's BLOG ( http://riennongyien.blogspot.com/ )

Should I worry about spoiling my baby?

Many elderly advice us not to pamper the babies, not to carry her when she cry or rock her so much. Well, as expert said,"Ignore the advice of well-meaning relatives who think babies need to learn independence." Instead, listen to your parental instinct — that inner voice that tells you to comfort your baby when she cries. Young babies are completely spoil-proof. Your baby needs all the care and attention you can give."Spoiled children" have learned to use negative behavior to get what they want. But the baby is too young to purposefully manipulate or annoy you. She cries to communicate her needs, whether they're for a snack, a dry/wet diaper, or a little cuddling with Mom or Dad. When we respond quickly to the baby, we're building her sense of self-worth. We're also establishing a foundation of trust that can last for years to come. If we give the baby prompt attention, she'll feel more secure and less anxious, giving her the courage to explore the world on her own. And once she understands that we take her cries seriously, she'll be less likely to cry for no reason. In the long run, responding quickly to the baby's needs will make her less clingy and demanding, not more. By the time the baby is 6 to 8 months old, she'll be paying close attention to cause and effect — noticing, for instance, that her bowl falls when she drops it from the highchair. She'll also start to see a direct link between her actions and our responses. At this point it's okay to set some limits. If the baby starts crying to get something she doesn't need, hold our ground and give her a hug when she calms down. Similarly, give hugs and praise for good behavior and gently redirect her when she's doing something hazardous.The right blend of love and guidance will eventually help our child understand her place in the world. But for now, our focus should be on giving her as much attention and comfort as we can. No matter how much we give, it's not more than she needs. ( BUT STILL MANY ELDERLY DUN UNDERSTAND AND KEEP TELLING ME DUN PAMPER THE BABY, DUN CARRY HER, LET HER CRY & SHE WILL STOP LATER WHEN NOBODY RESPONSE TO HER. HOW TO COMMUNICATE WITH THEM AR.- *I have been told over and over that i'm spoiling my baby and I feel as if i am sometimes...because she cries for me to pick her up...once i pick her up she stops and start smiling. How can I break her out of that habit early before it gets worse. Babies cry to get our attention because that's the only way they can tell us what they need. As they get older, they will be more effectively able to communicate what they need without crying. I pick up my baby and I hold her plenty. If making my baby feel safe and loved and having her trust me that I am going to take care of her needs means she's spoiled, then I'm gonna spoil her rotten.)

I had a quarrel with my mum on...... She wants my baby to prolong the feeding time from 3hrs to 4hrs. But i am thinking, she was still a newborn baby 13days old. Normal feeding are every 3hourly. If she is hungry how can we stop her from drinking. :S

Its 11am in the morning, my baby gal was crying so i went over to carry her up. I tried to talk to her and hold her tightly but doesn't seem to work. I guess she was hungry. Therefore, i smacking on her lips/Chin (a newborn reflex that causes babies to turn their head toward the hand when we stroke their cheek), She was putting her hands to her mouth. Mostly, she is hungry lo. So i went to the kitchen to ask my mum what was the last feeding on her. She told me was abt 8am. Mentally counting... ya abt 3hrs.. so i asked her to make the milk for me. Out of my expectation. She told me not to carry her and let her cry for awhile and dun feed her so fast. At 1st i try to calm my baby down by comforting/carrying her. But it doesn't work.. and she was crying for abt 5-8mins. As a mother, seeing her crying and screaming so loudly,my whole heart melted. So i went to the kitchen and tell my mum. " SHE IS HUNGRY NOW, HOW CAN WE STOP HER AND DUN GIVE HER MILK." I just said finished. She started to throw her temper at me.& she said" U WANT TO FEED ..THEN FEED LA FEED LA". Then i went in the kitchen to make milk for my bb gal. She felt even more angry and started to BANG things. I tried to tolerate. But seeing my bb gal got frighten for a few times when she heard the SLAMMING sound she made. I started to lose my temper as well. I said/shouted, "She is hungry and crying for milk. How can we dun feed her. & nw u frightened her by making those LOUD BANG.
Aft tt.. she screamed at me ....xsghTYUHJANBZXCVBNM< ( I dun like reveal on wat she said ..something nt v nice to hear.) Then i carried my gal to my own room to feed her.)

Infact, i had alot of quarrelsome with my parent, including my dad. As u know tt, my dad was a regular smoker. I hate to see him smoking inside the master room toilet. Cos it make the whole room so smelly when turning on the Air-con when my baby was sleeping in the room. *STINK* and was so healthy for a baby. My mum thinks tt i am too fussy & over reacted. :@ And something i also dun like abt my dad was tt aft he finished smoking..he likes to carry her & kiss, put his OILY face to stroke on her face. WORSE THING I EVER SEE. I saw him pick up my daughter handkerchief using his foot. OMG, tt handkerchief was for my gal to wipe her mouth u knw. Hw can u use ur foot to pick up and let her use. Therefore i screamed at him. And u knw wat he replied to me. He replied in Hokkien " AR BO UN ZUAN" Meaning... how u wanna me to pick up, He replied. Waste my effort to repy back. Really no common sense. Once aft I saw it..immediately i snatched fm his hand and threw inside the washing machine.

Haiz... wat shld i do. I knw i shldn't be so rude to them. But seeing those movement/reaction they had, really make me so uncomfortable.